Start with your child, not the diagnosis
The aim is to help your child understand themselves better without making them feel broken, negatively different, or responsible for difficulties they cannot simply control.
Keep it age appropriate
For a younger child, you might say: 'Everyone's brain works a little differently. Your brain is particularly good at some things, but things like concentrating, remembering instructions or sitting still can sometimes be harder. ADHD helps us understand why.'
Older children and teenagers may want more information. Give them opportunities to ask questions and take the conversation at their pace.
Talk about what they recognise
Connect ADHD to experiences your child already understands, such as getting started on homework, remembering instructions, losing belongings, feeling restless, interrupting unintentionally or becoming overwhelmed.
Avoid defining your child by ADHD
Try 'You have ADHD' rather than 'You are ADHD'. Your child is the same person they were before diagnosis.
Talk about strengths too
Do not present ADHD as entirely negative or as a list of supposed superpowers. Notice your child's real, individual strengths, interests and achievements.
Keep the conversation going
Understanding ADHD is not a one-off conversation. Your child's questions will change as they grow. Let them know it is always okay to ask.
This article is general educational information and does not replace individual medical advice. If you are worried about your child, speak to a qualified healthcare professional. In an emergency call 999, or NHS 111 for urgent advice.
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